Despite civilization's advances, the human mean streak is not going away. Bullies come in all ages and exist in all settings, including schools, playgrounds, marriages, workplaces and online. Unfortunately, most attempts to change the behaviour of bullies are at best ineffective and, most often, counterproductive. This is because they do not address the underlying causes of what makes a bully in the first place.
In this workshop, led by best-selling author and developmental psychologist Dr. Gordon Neufeld, participants will learn about the “bully syndrome” and its deep instinctive roots in the dynamics of attachment and vulnerability. They will also learn why this behaviour is so immune to conventional means of intervention. The key to the bully's unmaking is to first understand how bullies are made. Once we understand this, our attempts to unmake them can be truly effective and long-lasting.
The information from this workshop can be used to glean insight into particular bullies, to create plans for treatment or intervention, and/or to create prevention and intervention programs for schools and districts.
You will learn:
- The 12 traits of the bully syndrome traced to their roots
- The role of the limbic system (emotional brain) in bully making
- The nature of the dark union that begets the bully
- The attachment problems of bullies
- Common pitfalls in the treatment of bullies
- Why schools are becoming bully factories
- Why conventional discipline backfires with bullies
- Basic guidelines for addressing the bully problem that can be employed in a variety of venues and settings
- The most significant factors in keeping students safe
- Key target points for effective intervention
Who Should Attend?
Anyone who has an interest in understanding and effectively addressing bullying including (but not limited to) parents and other caregivers, teachers and school staff, helping professionals who work with children and helping professionals who work with parents.
About the Presenter
Dr. Gordon Neufeld is a Vancouver-based developmental psychologist with over 45 years of experience with children and youth and those responsible for them. A foremost authority on child development, Dr. Neufeld is an international speaker, a bestselling author (Hold On To Your Kids) and a leading interpreter of the developmental paradigm. Dr. Neufeld has a widespread reputation for making sense of complex problems and for opening doors for change. While formerly involved in university teaching and private practice, he now devotes his time to teaching and training others, including educators and helping professionals. His Neufeld Institute is now a world-wide charitable organization devoted to applying developmental science to the task of raising children. Dr. Neufeld appears regularly on radio and television. He is a father of five and a grandfather to six.